Hi, my name is Pierre Van Der Merwe. I have a urostomy, not sure how many people on the group has one (ilial conduit)

But one of the interesting things I have learned (on this group) is that some of you give your stoma bag a name😁 Now from the start my “bag” felt like an octopus hanging on my side🙈 But slowly over time I have befriended the octopus and I have named him “my octopus teacher”

And the reason is that he has taught me so many things e.g.

  1. He is not the enemy, actually I cannot live without him. I had to learn that he should NOT remind me of all my losses or of the original problem rather he SHOULD remind me of one of the brilliant solutions for a very complicated problem. Even if possible, he should rather remind me of hope (it takes time and “listening “to my teacher and not my fears)
  2. Don’t stop because of a difficult problem (e.g. swimming with your bag, putting on fancy clothes, going out) rather work with him to find a way around. Don’t stop and stagnate (e.g Google swimming with …
  3. Try to learn something practical and new about your “grumpy “every month. This group is a big help with this.
  4. Take the big step to grow your confidence in walking proudly in society (I know that a colostomy / iliostomy may have other problems and fears than a urostomy  ).so start with a ten step path.

Everyone will differ

My step three may be to walk without a shirt in my house (may not be yours😂) a tenth step might be to play rugby 🤔

I think we should invent our own “bumper stickers ” To put on our bag. words like HOPE or Joy. With pretty pictures

Keep the focus: faith, meaning and really living (as far as is possible)

Blessings

Pierre

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